Am an adult, with a sweet kind heart, waiting for what the world would offer me. I stayed with my elder sister at that time, and the only thing I did was help her take care of her little children while I go to school. I started being in a serious relationship when I was 19/20

My first attempt did go well, although I was in love with this one, we broke up and went separate ways. Then during my time of healing from my past relationship I met my new boyfriend. Our relationship then was complicated because he made it clear to me that he has a girlfriend, stupidily I fell in love with him. Without realizing it we were already in a relationship. We started from talking to almost talking each day that passes. He showed me lots of love but I always doubted him because of he has a girlfriend

It took us months before we became intimate, we couldn’t have enough of each other till I found out I was pregnant with his baby. I was so scared cos I feel like I’d disappointed my family and myself. I couldn’t find the courage to tell my lover that I was with his child till a day came when I made up my mind to let him know what was happening

When I told him he was sad to cos he was even ready to be married, although he’s up to the age of marriage he isn’t prepared for this new beginning of his life. He gave me two options either I give birth to the child or I abort the baby, but in my tradition, it’s taboo for a lady to abort a child and I thought we would end up together cos he loves me

I couldn’t bear the shame and heartbreak, I made up my mind to also take my own life. When to a lagoon front where I wanted to end everything but was caught by a security man who was on duty that day. He took me to a counseling unit where I received counsel and was also hospitalized cos of the trauma. It was then my family found out what I was going through, even though they were disappointed, they accept me again.

While I was at the hospital I already made up my mind about how to survive with my child as a single mother and how to give my child the support he or she needed. Still grateful for all the talks and counsel I received from people around me, and the support my baby’s father offered. He loves me and I know he did but didn’t want our marriage to be out of pity. I began accepting myself again and was praying to God to make a way for us.

My baby’s father, later on, agreed to not only be a father but a husband to me too. And till today am still grateful, we are so much into each other now that I already have forgotten what I passed through

The reason for the write-up is to be patient, heal, and allow the other person to make up his or her mind, you can’t force a new chapter into someone’s life and there is sunshine after every storm